HEALING TRUST
The May 2020 killing of George Floyd and subsequent protests have awakened the world to generations of injustice. Finally the world is listening - now is the time to initiate lasting change. And this change, must happen at many levels - social, governmental, personal and internal.
LISTEN TO SEASON 2, EPISODE 7
Lasting change starts from within. For the vast majority of the human experience, we have been trying to kill each other much longer than we have been trying to love each other. This has created a wound in our physical bodies born out of the inability to trust each other. It’s time to heal that broken trust. The future of the human species depends on it.
This episode covers this root of racism and how to understand your own level of trust and what to do about it.
Understand Your Trust Profile™
I’ve recently developed an approach to understanding trust called The Trust Profile™
It is a numerical value that illustrates how much trust you have in any given moment
That number is constantly changing and is determined by the history of broken trust in you, in your family, in your culture/ethnicity - all of which serve as debits from your trust bank
All positive experiences of love, belonging, acceptance serve as credits to your trust bank
The higher your #, the more trust you have
The lower your #, the more you will approach situations with caution or defensiveness. You’ll be ready to fight, flight or free because you don’t feel safe in that situation.
All the ways your trust has been broken historically directly connects to all the behaviors you need for trust to be built - get clear on what this is for you!
Understand that we all don’t start in life at the same level of trust - ancestral trauma passed down from generation to generation drastically affects how much trust we have
If you’re interested in a worksheet and 1-1 support to understand your trust profile, contact me (it’s in R&D right now).
Building Inner Trust
Show up for yourself in a consistent way by setting aside time each week for inner connection and reflection
Write down what you feel, journal and understand yourself
Physicalize your own self-love: things like tap therapy, self-massage, etc
Learn to love and accept the duality in you - being both light and shadow. Both power and pain. Releasing perfectionism will bring you closer to state of inner peace and minimizes the power of the inner critic
Know that self love is daily practice and is a defense against all the parts of the world that will tell you that you are not good enough
Building Outer Trust
When you feel the sting of fear in your body when you’re around a person, or group of people - you know it’s some part of your trauma that has awakened in you
This can be based on your personal history or part of the history of the culture or ethnicity that you come from
Honor and understand the feeling as appropriate
Show up for yourself and calm the scared inner child
Then gently guide yourself in to building trust outside of yourself
Opening up and ask for what you need in order to feel safer in an environment - but be conscious that you are not limiting another’s power in order for you to feel safe
Know it can take time and allow yourself the process to unfold one step at a time - building trust, like building anything, taking time and doing it intentionally will build something that lasts
Inner Trust +
Collective Trust =
Social Safety & Harmony
When this happens, we can feel safe with each other without needing to look like each other. That is the foundation of a brave new world.
If you’d like to talk, feel heard and supported, I’m here (*no charge)
If you’d like to do an in-depth session around your trust profile, contact me.